I hustled off the subway on a rainy night into a saloon in New York City to meet Mike, a fair-haired and collegiately-dressed construction attorney I had met on Bumble.
Mike and I quickly bonded on our first date considering we were both in agreement that the undoubtedly most wonderful time of the year was finally upon us:
Playoff hockey season.
With Mike being a diehard Washington Capitals fan and me with a staunch allegiance to the Pittsburgh Penguins, we found ourselves immersed in witty banter while sipping on some champagne cocktails.
Then the date took an unexpected nosedive.
“So have you ever been in love to the point you were going to marry someone?” He asked.
Despite the fact I am firm believer that one’s past should stay in the past particularly on a first date, I decided to humor him with a generic yet honest response.
“No, I cannot say I have. I’m in no rush though,” attempting to keep things on the lighter side.
“It’s funny how attraction can be. I just broke up with my girlfriend of four years and I was never in love with her, but this one girl I dated in law school a few years ago I was obsessed with. You’ve never been obsessed with someone?”
“…’Obsessed’ is kind of an aggressive word. I have liked people a lot, but I definitely wouldn’t say that I was ever obsessed.”
“Oh I was definitely obsessed. I couldn’t get enough of this girl. It was like all I wanted to do was be around her, call her. And it was just crazy that I only knew her for a short time,” he revealed, creepily.
At this point in time I decided that though we got off to a positive start, there was not going to be seeing Mike in the future for fear of his possible obsession.
After rejecting several of his attempts for a second date, Mike sought an answer as to why he was being dismissed considering the lovely time we spent together on our initial meeting.
I tried to give him an honest answer so that he could avoid making the same mistake in the future, but as they say, no good deed goes unpunished…